I am giving this to all of my friends and asking that everyone keeps those that are enduring hardships from the ice storms in their prayers. I personally know of 2 people here on firelink that need our prayers and I am sure there are a lot more.
Sorry have been MIA so long. Sorry to hear about your BIL. Best thing that I can think of for you is to just be there for them both as much as you can be and just listen when they need to talk/vent about life in general.
I'll keep praying for you and them.